From a very young age, we’re told we can be whatever we want to be.
We can do whatever we want to do.
We can achieve anything our heart desires so long as we reach for the stars!
And so, as a kid, we aspired to be firefighting, ballet-dancing doctors with three kids, a dog, and a white picket fence around our treehouse mansion. What we weren’t told, however, is that there simply isn’t enough time to do everything we want.
Unfortunately, it’s unrealistic to even attempt to do everything.
Think about it: firefighting training, intensive dance lessons, and medical school are each very time consuming on their own, let alone simultaneously.
There just isn’t enough time in the day—let alone a lifetime—to accomplish every whim we have.
So what do we do?
We prioritize. We take a look at every impulse, dream, obsession, and goal we have and pinpoint which of them are the most important to us.
Which of our aspirations would bring us the greatest sense of accomplishment?
Which of those would bring us the most happiness?
Which achievement would make us feel the most Successful?
And from there, we turn our attention and focus to our most important ambitions.
But choosing what we want out of our lives is a lot easier said than done. It isn’t painless. And it can even bring us a great sense of grief or even mourning.
Oftentimes, we’re reluctant to leave behind plans and passions we once had because of sentimentality or sheer stubbornness. The prospect of this potential identity and the future it could hold brings a lot of excitement and makes for fantastic daydreams. But the confines of Reality limit the number of potential lives we can actually manifest.
Part of what makes it so difficult to let go of these alternate realities is the fear of losing out on a Potential Reality.
It can be disheartening to believe our potential isn’t actually as limitless as we’ve been told our entire lives.
But what’s truly beautiful about these Potentials is that they will always exist inside of us. Whether or not you pursue a Potential doesn’t mean you will lose out on the entirety of that world because it will always be of interest to you.
When joined together, your interests make up the person you are and always will be. So even though the reality of you becoming a firefighting, ballet-dancing doctor with three kids, a dog, and a white picket fence around our treehouse mansion isn’t probable, you can always become the pediatrician that worked as a volunteer firefighter in college who takes their kids to The Nutcracker every holiday season, then comes back home for some hot chocolate before bedtime 🙂
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